Monday, January 16, 2006

Awful People: Part 1 - Jerks & Worse

A know-it-all who doesn't know what he is talking about is a jerk;

whereas a know-it-all who does is merely an a--hole.

- from Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior by Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg (Perigee Books)

They use fear and intimidation to get the better of you. But don't write off the corrigible jerks and a--holes who may act that way because they don't know any better,
just write off the incorrigible ones who do know better, but don't care.

A jerk is always a jerk (find out The Top 10 Ways to Recognize a Jerk); but occasionally an a—hole isn’t one at all. Ugliness—like beauty—is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes a person who has a reputation as an a—hole is just someone with extremely high standards who can’t be manipulated by whiners, complainers and slackers who turn out to be awful people doing name calling to get out of work.

Next week, in “Awful People: Part 2 – Whiners & Complainers,” find out about those problem people who exasperate you more than they frighten you. In two weeks in the last part of this series, “Awful People: Part 3 – The Simple Way to Deal with Difficult People,” find out how to effectively handle all problem people.

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